by familymwr

Question by ♫♪♫♪ I love music ♪♫♪♫: did i do the right thing by getting rid of this bad friend?
I am a senior in high school,graduating in May. I recently got rid of one of my friends that I was pretty close with because I did not like how I was being treated. We were a group of 4 girls and we would hang out and have a great time. But my one friend would always be controlling, acted like she was in charge of everyone, and just didnt have any manners. She was always very selfish and I can go on about how she acts. She is very moody, and has no common sense. By her not having common sense, it hurt many people because she never treated anyone with respect and treated all of us like garbage.

We go off campus for lunch when we are at school, and she asked us to go to her house on the days we didnt go out to eat. We said ok, fine. But whenever my other friends didnt have food with them and wanted to go out somewhere,she always demanded that we go to her house because it would take too much time. Again, being very selfish. When we were over there, she would ignore all of us and talk to her mom about gossip acting like she had no one over at her house. My friends and I got sick of all of this and just everything else, so one day we decided that we were going to go off to lunch by ourselves without her because we were not going to go to her house to be ignored.

She didnt only ignore us during school, but as well on the weekends and during long breaks. She doesnt even treat us like a friend. We would go weeks without talking to eachother and you would try texting her and at times she would ignore you. Her excuse was that she was “busy”.
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So my friend put a facebook status up saying ( i love all of my real friends and im glad that I finally stood up for myself today). My other friend got really emotional about it and told us she was throwing up and crying due to what she said. She blew it out of proportion.

So then she got all mad at us, and said we are mad at her but she doesnt know why. I told her well I think we are all having communication issues here,( due to her not treating us like friends and not answering our calls on the weekends) and it needs to be resolved. We should all talk about it so we are all clear of whats going on. She agreed and said yeah. So i was like ok, maybe we can resolve this without any conflict. i wanted to talk to her during lunch and she went off and did her own thing, not even wanting to resolve it. so i said forget it, we tried compromising.

So at the end of the day my friend was going to drive me home and we go out to the school parking lot, and we see her mom standing outside. She confronted my friend and started yelling at her and asking why are you ignoring her? my friend clearly cant handle her own problems beacuse she had her mom come and yell at her freinds and she is a senior in high school.( pretty sad if you ask me) and my friend said that she needs to fight her own battles and if she is wondering why she needs to talk about it with us. her mom was going on and on and on and then my friend comes outside and was like ” you made me cry myself to sleep last night and i was throwing up! I am done with you!!”

She then walks away. And then after that her sister was texting me and was saying that we were over at their house and i hurt her whole family and i am disrespectful, and she was totally disregarding what my friend did to us. She was pretty much harassing me through text messages and then said if i want to be friends with her again, ill have to apoligize to her whole family.I think it is rediculous and I never did anything to her family.I gave them all the respect I had in my whole body.
This was a litte thing that could have been resolved,and she had to get her whole family involved.I didnt fight wtih her, I fought with her mother and her sister.

So now, we dont even talk to each other. She goes to lunch alone, and we have two classes together and we sat next to eachother. Today we didnt say a word to eachother. It just felt weird and I kind of felt bad that we ditched her becasue she is ending her senior year with no friends. I know she desrved what she got, but I just feel bad.

Would you have gotten rid of this person if they were doing this to you?
yeah I think I should of taken more intiative of talking to her, but its really not so easy talking about something thats so irritating. And I just didnt think I was able to change her beause my friends and I think that once we talk it over the same stuff would start over again.

Best answer:

Answer by l-town sports
well first i think u should of talked to her about it instead of just deciding to leave her and not be friends maybe if u talked things out she would of relized and changed but if u really think she was bad enough u did they right thing people will come and go but u have to know when to keep the right people and when to let go of others in the future be careful of ur decisions

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